“What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.”
Pericles (495 – 429 BC)
Most people were raised by parents who did just fine with us even though they never read a child rearing book. I believe that is because much of child rearing is intuitive for those who want to be a good parent. Most child rearing books are written by psychologists. Since I am a CPA by training, you will not find any psychological theory in these posts, but you will find my intuitive theories and what I have learned raising our nine children to adulthood.
My posts are not intended to be a manual on how to get inside your kids’ heads. We all know that every one of us is unique. Methods that help one child might not help the next. Therefore, the wise parent will listen to others ideas and decide what is best for each individual child.
I’m not always correct, as my kids frequently point out but, hopefully, you will find practical advice as to what seems to work and what doesn’t. I just want to share some ideas and experiences about life with you readers.
Since our professions, service organizations, sporting events, etc. are obviously less important than our families, we must devote sufficient time and effort to make sure that we are taking care of things at home. Too many fathers have the misconception that their responsibility is to earn money so that the family can have the essentials, and luxuries, of life. Some think it is Mom’s responsibility to raise the kids while Dad participates in other activities.
A father’s role is so much more important than just buying Play Stations and funding a college education. The societal problems and temptations of our day require a more involved father. Fathers must talk to, play with, educate, discipline, enjoy and love their children. The lack of a father-figure will cause society to lose our children in even greater numbers than ever before because of the destructive forces all around us. By the time the specter of losing a child becomes evident, it might be too late to make a course correction.
Subsequent posts will deal with how parents, but especially fathers, can protect and provide for their families while providing the leadership that children so desperately need.